I Love You...But Do I Really Love Your Mess?

April has brought the showers, the earthquakes and definately has brought the epiphanies lol.  What's up JayeScribers!!!!!  I know that it's been MORE than a minute, but I'm here and I'm breathing, walking and talking like a brand new ME!!!

Topic for the day:  Does Loving Someone Automatically Mean Loving Their Mess?

Now because I know my followers, some of you are probably looking at that and saying HEEELLLL NO!!!!!  However, lets really look into this problem shall we?  How many of us have been in relationships (and yes I'm speaking romantically folks) ONLY to look back and say to ourselves, "Why did I deal with that?"  I think that people are so caught up in giving up on the fantasies that they've created as children that when they find someone who has one or two good qualities they enjoy that they rush into relationship and settle thinking they can just go with the flow with the rest of the stuff that isn't right for them.

We are so quick to look at someone in an abusive relationship and say how dumb the person is, but have you ever stopped to realize that they might actually love their partner?  That they are in love so much that they feel the need or obligation to also deal with and settle for the mess?

Well I have!!!  And this is what I have to say about it:  Loving someone means that you are truthful about what IS and ISN'T healthy.  It is very possible to love someone and not agree with their actions.  It is also very possible to love someone and say "you know I really love you, but I can't deal with your mess". 

If I could find the person who coined the phrase that "real love hurts" I'd strangle them and leave them to be eaten by a thousand dessert scorpians.  LOVE DOES NOT HURT!!!!  PEOPLE HURT!!!!!  Love is all the warm and fuzzy feelings you think it is, it's the thing that causes you to be patient when someone starts to piss you off.  It is that honesty that should transcend all lies.  It is that and so much more but the one thing I DO know is that love is NOT hurt!!!!

If you are in a relationship and you are questioning whether or not to stay, here's my advice: get a piece of paper and write down ALL the things that the relationship does for you in a healthy manner and then write down ALL the things that destroy you in that relationship.  Whichever one is longer let your decision come from that.

I love you guys for your support, there will be more blogging  to come as I prepare for my summer tour with Phi'LA The Musical.  I will also keep you updated on my new album that I'm working on....

~Till next blog I'm Danyol Jaye with The Jaye Spot~

Peace!!!!

Dealing With People

Hello JayeScribers WHAT'S UP!!!!

I've missed all of you so much and it's been such a crazy, crazy last few weeks.  Anyway, I've been noticing for the last few weeks how difficult it is to deal with different types of people!!!!!

You have those people who are sooo agressive that you tend to NOT want to be around them because they're generally portraying a selfish nature and always demanding or delegating something.  Kind of like being on some Diva Trip that is lasting WAAAAAAY to long.  These are generally the people you just want to bury 8 feet under.  Yes I said it 8!!!  Not 6, but 8....

Then you have those who are super passive and allow people to walk all over them.  Constantly exusing themselves or apologizing, even when they've done nothing wrong, simply to keep from having a conflict.  These are they people that you just want to shake up and scream at them and say "GET A BACK BONE!!!!  GROW A PAIR!!!!"   But you realize you can't because they'll probably cry for the next 4 days.

Now we come to my personal "favorite" =-x......THE PASSIVE AGRESSIVE PERSON!!!!!
I just don't get it....this is the person that will be mad at you and instead of speaking their mind will sit in silence and just let it fester.  All of the indirect contact, going through other people and all that kind of nonsence.  Makes you want to choke them all the more....

Anywho tell me what your thoughts are by dropping a comment or two and tell me what type of person you think you are...


Till Next Blog, I'm Danyol Jaye @ The Jaye Spot

Being Honored.....But Still Humbled

It is always a humbling experience when you find that the very things that fuel your passion are things that people wish to acknowledge and support as well as honor.  I have been working with youth and non profits since the age of 14.  I am 24 (soon to be 25) and in 10 years I've had the amazing priviledge to see some of the most amazing youth grow and develop their talents in the arts. 

Art Share Los Angeles has been on of those places that will forever be etched into my heart and has become a staple in the legacy that I wish to leave behind when I leave this world.  Studenst like David, Robert, Enrique, Rocio, Jennifer, Gaby, Evelyn, Rene & Abel, just to name a few, are the reasons why I do what I do.

Every so often you are blessed by someone else that wishes to
acknowledge your work.  The Life Through Arts Foundation wishes to do just that.  During their 6th annual Red Party Fundraiser, they will be Honoring Me for my contribution to Art Education and Youth Involvement.  Tickets are $75 and I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to see some familiar faces as I except this award.  For more Info & to purchase Tickets please visit http://www.ltaf.org/

Although I am recieving this award, I accept it on behalf of ALL my students, because without them this award wouldn't be possible.

In addition to all of this I will be a featured artist during Art Share LA's Valentine's Day Fundraiser.  Tony White & The Tony White Quartet will be spreading the rhythms of Jazz and romance and they will be featuring me to help spread the love. 

Tickets are $20 w/RSVP and $25 @ the door.  For more information on this event please visit http://www.artsharela.org/


Once again I thank you ALL for your continued support!!!!!

~Till next blog, I'm Danyol Jaye with The Jaye Spot~

The Gift Of Giving Hope

Hello Everyone,

This blog is a bit personal for me because it's concerning something that I am very passionate about....Youth & Art Education.  For those who do not know I currently work with an organization called Art Share Los Angeles and we provide free art classes both visual and performance to youth 13-24.  In the last 9 months Art Share along with many other organziations have lost funding due to the economic crisis that has been hitting across America.

But despite this crises Art Share has been diligently servicing the youth of LA.  Each individual student has crossed so many bridges to get to a point of encouragment, love and acceptance.  They've battled depression, the loss of thier homes and friends and have all found within themselves that special spark that makes them who they are...and ALL here at Art Share Los Angeles.

I thank God everyday for allowing me to mentor and experience their lives and their growth on a daily basis and I pray that the platform that God has given me to simply know all of those that read this blog can be used to ask for your help in reaching and supporting the programs that change the lives of my students.

Christmas is a time of love, family, friends and giving.  We don't give because it's tradition, we don't give because we're told to.  If we all were to look beyond the surface we would find that the reason we give during this time is becuase in some small way it brings joy to your heart to know that something that comes from you can put a smile on someone else's face and put a little bit of hope in their hearts.

I'm asking for your help, if you and anyone you may know can find it in your hearts to give to a charitbale cause I'm asking that you choose to give to Art Share Los Angeles.

Give to an organization that is working everyday to change the lives of these youth that are often forgotten and misplaced.  $5, $10, $100...WHATEVER you can afford or feel led to give I'm asking that you give it and help myself and the organziation put a smile on the faces of our students and hope in their hearts during this Holiday Season.

to make a donation please Visit

http://www.artsharela.org/

or mail your donation to:

Art Share Los Angeles
801 East 4th Place
Los Angeles, CA 90013

Thank you ALL for supporting my music, my blog and my WONDERFUL WONDERFUL Students!!!!!

Have a wonderful CHRISTMAS!!!!!

In Deep Thought

I know I normally reserve the Jaye Spot for entertainment and for updating you guys on whats happening with my career.  However, I thought that I would take a moment and address the more serious side of reality.

How many of us have doubted that who we thought we were meant to become is now just a memory in reverse from who we have chosen to be?  So many people in the industry are searching for identity, searching for a character, someone to be.  We give entertainers times in our lives that for most of us we should be spending on something else.  I am a firm believer that God has purpose for our lives, our gifts, our talents and yes even our failures; but it is only when we align ourselves with HIS vision and HIS will that we ever find out what that purpose actually is.

I challange my readers today to take a moment at some point in your busy schedule today and ask yourself: What Have I Done To Ensure That I Become The Person I Was Born To Be?

Keep God first and remember always that you are never alone.


I'm Danyol Jaye with The Jaye Spot, Till next blog.


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Updates On Me

What's going on family and friends?  It's been a crazy busy 3 months for me but all in all things are paying off.  I want to thank ALLLLLLL of you who came and supported Phi'LA The Musical it was SMASH HIT!!!!!!!!!!!

Words are buzzing that AEG will be sponsoring a PAID tour for the cast of Phi'LA The Musical.  So look forward to us traveling around the country by summer of next year.

In addition I've been writing like crazy for my 2nd independant album, writing the script for my new musical and teaching Intermediate/Advanced Jazz at Art Share Los Angeles, an arts non-profit for youth 13-24.

For more info on Phi'LA please visit http://www.philathemusical.com/

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Phi'LA The Musical At The Nokia

So folks I'm sitting here in the dressing room of the Club Nokia and I'm feeling so blessed and inspired.  As we are going through the numbers and realizing minute by minute that Monday is closer than we know.

When asking 2 of the leads of Phi'LA The Musical, Godwin Thurton & Walter Catalan who play 2 battling gangters trying to protect their hood and their ethnic background, about their feelings of being here they had this to say:

Danyol: So Godwin how are you feeling knowing that you're opening at the Club Nokia?

Godwin: I'm ecstatic, excited and grateful.
Danyol: What are you grateful for specifically?
Godwin: For being a part of something that can help change our community.
Danyol: What is the one thing you want people to walk away from this play with?
Godwin: To know that there are issue in Los Angeles that need to be dealt with.

Danyol: What's the most exciting thing about being a part of Phi'LA The Musical?
Walter: One exciting thing is being around people that come from different places and getting to know them. Also the rush of being on the stage.
Danyol: Where do you want this play to go?
Walter: I want it to reach everybody that still have it in their mind that there's racial tension in their community.  All the urban neighborhoods that live this everyday.
Danyol: What do you want people to take from this play when they leave?
Walter: That all this racial tension is stupid and that it needs to stop before more people die.


Opening Monday, October 12th, 2009 at  8pm at the Club Nokia, those who don't take the opportunity to come see this musical will be missing an enormous part of Los Angeles history.  Filled with love, tension, social issues and positive change Phi'LA The Musical is the beginning of a new rising phenomenon.

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